Beyond Words
Men and women speak different languages!
Discover how to smooth out those rough conversations, go beyond words, and Create Deeper Connection ...
... without begging, nagging, or bribing him
... without standing on your head to please him
... without dragging him to therapy
... or doing anything else crazy!
The Art & Science of Connection & Influence
This may sound a bit odd, but the biggest mistake you can make is trying to connect and influence him with words. There's a better way.
Your husband needs your perspective. That's the very reason he's vulnerable to you. His sensitivity makes him want to protect you, to provide for you, to spend time with you, and to make you smile.
His sensitivity to you also gives you the power to crush him with your words, your tone, and your facial expression.
You are just trying to have a conversation. But if he feels attacked, blamed, and criticized, he will disconnect. He'll shut down.
1. He can easily get confused by the sheer quantity of words you use.
- You talk in paragraphs, but he listens in sentences.
- The more you say, the more confused he gets, so he tunes you out.
2. Your emotions have the power to overwhelm him within minutes.
- You learned to express yourself, but he learned to ignore his feelings.
- He glazes over like he doesn't understand, so you provide examples to illustrate.
3. When he doesn't respond, you try harder using more words.
- You think he's not listening or still doesn't understand what you're saying, so you keep trying.
- He is emotionally flooded, so he lashes out ... or walks out.
There is a better way to connect! And it's super simple.
Hello. I'm Dr. Debi
For more than 25 years, I counseled couples in my Clinical Practice, teaching them what works to create a happy marriage. I will always tell you the truth. Because you deserve to know what your husband won't say ... and your therapist can't say.
Please rest assured that I never favor one sex over the other. That would be counterproductive. That means I am not a sexist. And although I love helping women get what they want, I'm not a feminist either. I'm simply a pragmatist who recognizes and honors the fact that men and women are different by design.
Embrace the Possibilities!
She was highly successful. Her new husband hadn't found his footing yet. She tried to help.
But nothing she said motivated him to finish anything he started. He would agree to do something around the house, then fail to follow through. She got angry.
As if that wasn't enough, although he was bright and capable, he didn't have the same career drive that she did. She made suggestions and couldn't understand why he wasn't listening.
Then she began to implement the strategies taught in this course.
And she was amazed by the change she saw in him ... almost immediately. In fact, she was totally blown away by how quickly he responded to one small change she made in the way she interacted with him. He discovered his passion and made rapid progress toward establishing a career that he loved. And they fell in love all over again.
She ended their ongoing argument!
She had been married for more than 40 years. She was so unhappy that she sought my guidance to decide if she needed to divorce him. In case you're wondering, I never tell anyone what to do. I only tell them what works and what doesn't.
When she started experimenting with the new strategies she was learning, her husband was totally taken aback. Within a few minutes, he looked at her seriously and said, “What’s wrong?”
“Nothing,” she replied. “I’m just listening.”
He believed her, and continued. She learned a ton about him in the process, and they stopped arguing all the time. She didn’t always agree with him, of course. But she learned that they really weren’t that far apart on most things after all. And her husband started asking for her input!
And she started looking forward to seeing him … instead of thinking about leaving him. Go figure.
What You'll Learn
- The Difference Between Influence and Manipulation.
Because you don't want to exchange one mistake for another. - The Principles of Behavioral Psychology.
You need to know why these strategies work ... and what you're doing now doesn't. - 5 Super Simple Experiments.
Test these strategies. Observe the results. Tweak your application if necessary. Repeat.
What's Included
- 9 Video Lessons
- 4 videos teach the Science behind this approach, and
- 5 videos teach the Art of influencing a man.
- 50-page Workbook
- BONUS! 60-minute Zoom call
You can ask me about anything ... for yourself, for a friend, or just out of curiosity. Because your success matters to me!
For the Wise Woman who would like her mate to ...
- Be more considerate of your opinions ... and your feelings
- Have more meaningful conversations with you
- Look for ways to make your life easier
- Spend more time with you
- Cherish and protect you
- Ask for your input
- Make you smile
Remember, these are simple, personally uplifting, science-based strategies that actually work ... without begging ... nagging ... bribing ... standing on your head to please him ... dragging him to therapy ... or doing anything else crazy.
