Your marriage rises or falls on two essential qualities: love and respect.
When love and respect flow freely between you, connection feels easier and life is more enjoyable. When they’re missing or inconsistent, even small issues can feel much bigger than they should.
This short, research-based quiz—adapted from Dr. John Gottman’s work—helps you understand how much love and respect you’re currently experiencing. It takes just a few minutes and offers immediate insight into the patterns shaping your connection.
Whether your score is high or low, there is always hope.
Understanding what’s happening is the first step toward change.
Adapted from Gottman, J.M. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown Publishers.
This quiz is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis, therapy, or mental health treatment. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress, relational crisis, or believe you may be in an unsafe situation (including domestic violence), please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. In any life-threatening emergency, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room immediately.
