We’ve made a lot of mistakes when it comes to marriage.

Not only as individuals — but also as mental health professionals and marriage educators.

We’ve treated marriage as if it were the end game.
But it’s meant to be the beginning.

Marriage is commitment, covenant, and legal contract.
Those things matter.
But they are not the final destination.

The purpose of living is loving — and being loved.

Love is not a finish line.
It’s a direction.

And for far too long, we’ve been trying to get there without a proper map.

Instead, we focus on the marriage itself.
Fighting for a marriage.
Saving a marriage.

All the while remaining surprisingly clueless about how to love and enjoy one another in the process.

The quality of a marriage is the byproduct of the daily interactions between a man and a woman — multiplied by time.

Marriage is the Dance of Life.

You don’t master it all at once.
You learn how to love one another as you go.

A man and a woman are different by design.
Each experiences life — and love — in a distinct way.

Together, those differences spark the synergy that creates sweet harmony.

Sometimes, they're out of sync and feel like a complete mismatch.
But being out of sync doesn’t mean their dance is over.

In real life, a man and a woman are designed to dance as one
— to move together — but never in total unison.
That would be boring and passionless.

And who wants that?