Study the Psychology of Men, Women, and Marriage

What Works, What Doesn't, and Why

What You Can Learn Over the Holidays

 

Love & Marriage. Where do you begin ... even when it seems you can't win?

Can your marriage be saved? What does it take to make a "good enough" marriage great? Or an "already great" marriage better than ever? 

You've been lied to long enough!


You've been led to believe marriage is something it was never designed to be. It can be so much better.

No wonder you're confused! 

You've been told men are stupid and simple and shallow, so there's nothing to study. 

Yet he is wonderfully complex!

You've been told women are crazy and complicated, so there's no point in even trying to understand her. 

Yet she's beautifully different than he! 
Hello, I'm Dr. Debi.

I love teaching the boy how to win back his girl. 
And I love teaching the girl how to get what she wants. 
Which isn't nearly as difficult as he's been led to believe.

 

Different by Design


Men and women are different. 
Alway have been.
Always will be.

I never favor one sex over the other.
That would be counterproductive.
That means I am not a sexist.

And although I love teaching women how to get what they want, that definitely does not make me a feminist!

I am simply a pragmatist who recognizes and honors the fact that men and women are different by design.

I've taught this multiple times each year for a long time. 
But all that is changing now. "Why?" you ask.
Because your success matters to me!

Men and women ... both ... desperately need a practical approach to Romance ... based in Real Life Research!

I've never understood why they don't teach this in school. Absolutely no one taught me about men and marriage. My dad wasn’t around when I was growing up, and my mom was thoroughly confused about men. So neither of them were any help.

I married at 18 with stars in my eyes.

My husband had just finished his freshman year of college.

I worked full time until our first son was born ... 6 weeks after his dad graduated.

By the time we'd been married almost 16 years ...
  • I’d been to the library and read enough books about marriage to choke a horse.
  • But none of them talked about how men and women are designed to work together.
  • No one told me what my husband thought, how he felt, or why he did the things he did.
  • No one taught my husband about what I needed either. Heck, I didn’t even know that myself!

Unfortunately, my church never taught me anything about love and marriage either. Instead, marriage seemed to be something mystical that everyone knew about except me. Based on my religious upbringing, I concluded that if I just never needed anything and served my husband instead of myself, it would all be perfect. But it wasn't.

After my first marriage ended, I finally got to go to college.

They didn’t teach me anything about men or about women either, much less what made a healthy marriage. Grad school in clinical psychology did a little better on the topic of marriage. We could take a course in how to do couples therapy, and I did.

All these years later, it still seems odd to me – really, really odd
– that no one teaches anything useful about gender differences.
  • Why would they ignore such an important subject?
  • After all, marriage is comprised of a man and a woman.
  • Shouldn’t we know about the components?
  • Yes, the whole is more than the sum of its parts.
  • But does that mean we ignore the parts altogether?
However, the process of raising three sons as a single mom made me curious.

Yes, by the time I finally made it to college, I’d collected enough evidence to build a solid case against men. But my curiosity about how to raise boys made me curiouser and curiouser about men in general ... and why they are the way they are.

And what I discovered set the course for the remainder of my career and my life.
  • I kept studying men. Academically and clinically and personally. (Yes, I did fall in love again. đź’•)
  • As a Psychologist, my speciality was Couple's Therapy. And I started to get more curious about women. 
  • What do women need and want, and why so many of us never get to live our dream.
So here I am to teach everything I learned
as a former Couple's Counselor and University Professor. 

Yes, that's a lot of info! But I promise to keep it super simple. Because now is better than never ... to have an honest discussion about the Realities of Romance ... and to have access to a practical, Comprehensive Study that explores both sides of the equation. Of course, it’s not politically correct nowadays to say that men and women are different. 

But that doesn’t make it any less true.

Just ask any man or woman who is ... or ever has been ... in a romantic relationship!

What can you learn over the Holidays?

These classes are available right now to get you started.

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Disclaimer

All information provided is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to replace a professional evaluation or treatment for emotional and relational concerns. If you are experiencing severe distress or believe you may be a victim of domestic violence, please contact a licensed mental health professional for assistance. If you are experiencing a life-threatening emergency, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.

If others learned how to thrive in Life and Love, you can, too!

I am passionate about helping couples and single adults discover ways to apply values that never go out of style and the findings of scientific research to everyday life and love.

I love helping the boy win back his girl.

But mostly ... I love helping the girl get what she wants.
Which isn't nearly as complicated as the boy believes it to be. 

Dr. Debi Smith, PsyD

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