Explore the Psychology of Men, Women, and Marriage
Learn the Simple Facts About What Works. What Doesn't. and Why
Men and Women are different by design.
Always have been. Always will be.
And that's a very good thing!
What would it take to make your "good enough" marriage great ... or your "already great" marriage better than ever?
And where can you begin when it seems you can't win?
You're in the right place for a fresh start!
Where women are valued.
And men are respected.
She married one of the good guys.
At least she believed he was a good man when she married him. He was cute and funny. Super smart. Protective. He had purpose and vision. He was crazy in love with her. She felt special and beautiful, which made her heart skip a beat and her spirit sparkle. She was super excited to spend the rest of her life with her best friend.
But something changed. Slowly at first. She ignored it for a long time. Now she feels disconnected. Alone in her marriage.
He's still a good guy. But why does he spend so much time at work? Why doesn't he want to spend time with her anymore?
They no longer share their dreams with one another. Now their conversations are only about the kids ... or the next task on a never-ending list.
Her friends don't know how unhappy she is. A few women in her social circle have shared their own complaints, which turned into all-out husband-bashing. That's not helpful. So she remains silent. Sad and confused. Aching and lonely.
If this sounds familiar, you are not alone.
Many women do not understand their husbands. And they know something isn’t right because their conversations are short, one word responses … they rarely laugh together anymore … they’re stuck in a monotonous routine of work, Netflix, bed … and there is no intimacy (and even if there is, it feels forced).
Her husband isn’t a “bad guy” per se, but their relationship certainly doesn’t have the spark it once had. And even though she couldn’t imagine getting a divorce, the thought has definitely crossed her mind.
She wonders what life would be like
... married to someone who is excited to see her … spontaneously taking her out on a weekend getaway … or noticing that she just got her hair done … or doing a double take when she walks through the room in a new dress … or when she overhears him talking on the phone gushing about how proud he is of her working so hard on her business and persevering even when things get hard.
She feels a connection.
And things may not be perfect, but she definitely feels like their relationship just keeps getting better and better.
The difference started here ►
A Quick Start Guide
You married one of the good guys. But his behavior doesn't make sense. You're not alone. Many women have the same issues with men. Learn what he's not telling you.
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Discover what men won't say, but women need to hear. Straight up. Simple. To the Point. A One-Page Study Guide for the woman who loves one of the good guys.
Understanding Women
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Just so you know ...
I am passionate about helping couples and single adults discover ways to apply healthy values and the findings of scientific research to everyday life and relationships. Yes, I love helping the boy win back his girl. But mostly ... I love helping the girl get what she wants. Which isn't nearly as complicated as the boy believes it to be.
However, I never favor one sex over the other. That would be counterproductive. That means I am not a sexist. And although I love helping women get what they want, I am not a feminist either. I am simply a pragmatist who recognizes and honors the fact that men and women are different by design. That's what A Wise Woman's Guide is all about.
Your success matters to me!
Hello. I'm Dr. Debi.
After closing my Clinical Psychology Practice, I decided to do something I’d always dreamed about ... teaching more men and women the truth about gender differences in marriage.
Now the same process I developed for my clients and students has become a Guide for anyone eager to learn.
I'm passionate about helping couples and singles discover ways to apply common sense values and the findings of psychological research to everyday life and romance.
Yes, I love helping the boy win back his girl.
But mostly ... I love helping the girl get what she wants. Which isn't as complicated as the boy believes it to be.
Remember, I'm a pragmatist. That is, I'm here to teach you some simple, practical solutions to everyday challenges.
Read my personal story.
What my clients say about working with me:
"We cannot be thankful enough for you saving our marriage (would seem almost impossible to most), and also to restoring it to much better than before the separation!" ~ Chalaun
"My wife and I are so appreciative to have found Dr. Debi. We had been going on an off for years with many different therapists and techniques. Nothing compares to the approach that Dr. Debi provided. I had always found it hard after previous therapy sessions to remember the guidance. It seemed so complex and elusive to embrace. Dr. Debi gave us direct and instantly useful advise. She laid an impressionable foundation that helped me see how much love my wife and I had for each other in a way that was consistent and tangible. She taught us to recognize the critical moments that caused caused us so much pain. Thanks to Dr. Debi we now have ‘tools’ to battle the rampant miscommunication that had plagued our relationship. I will be forever grateful." ~ Andrew
"Dr. Debi is amazing! She is caring, understanding and highly educated. She has been given a gift of being able to understand men and provide tools for them to communicate their thoughts & feelings in a way that women can understand. It’s remarkable." ~ Cathy
"My wife and I saw Dr. Debi after being married for 23 years and she brought us back from a place where, in my opinion divorce was inevitable, to a loving, caring, more understanding relationship. I’ve since learned how to communicate better, be more patient, and realize that the two different backgrounds we both were raised from has a huge impact on how we deal with things today. Dr. Debi is amazing how she’s able to translate what a man is trying to say/tell his wife and have it make sense. She has an extraordinary insight on men and how they speak and what they need in a relationship. After seeing Dr. Debi I feel much closer to my wife and realize she’s the most important thing I have in my life, and I will protect her to my last breath." ~ Jeff
"Dr. Debi helped me see I had expectations for my husband based on my own expectations for myself. I expected my husband to act like a female. This new outlook opened up new conversations which have led to a level of depth that neither of us knew existed. We are extremely grateful to Dr. Debi for showing us the tools we need to love each other, respect each other, and take care of each other." ~ Emily
What men and women are saying online ...
Yes, some people have been deeply hurt in close relationships and post angry comments aimed at demonizing and discrediting the opposite sex. But most of my followers post encouraging words. Here are just a few.
"I love this! What you do is amazing. It's so needed and goes beyond couples counseling. Very unique, in my opinion, and a great service to both men and women." ~ Christine L
"I am a guy. Thank you for these words. You are so right on." ~ Anonymous
"This is life changing information. Thank you." ~ YT Subscriber
"Thank you for saying what I couldn't say my entire life." ~ A Male Fan
"This is not even being taught in churches (that I had been too). I grew up in a household where there’s lots of emotional chaos and what my mother modeled at home and even spoke to me were too disrespect the man . I realize how much I need to unlearn and adopt new perspective on family, marriage, and relationships. I am thankful for this video." ~ YT Subscriber
But you can decide for yourself.
Watch this video about Men and Intimate Communication. Then let me know what you think.
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The Psychology of Men, Women, and Marriage
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